Question

It seems that there are double standards between trans people and gay people. Clearly this is an anecdote, but I still think about this daily. I am a gay male, and I had some really negative experiences when I say that I identify as masculine and that I prefer masculine men.Why are people who feel like they are in the wrong gender encouraged to transition? Does this not imply that gender other than biological gender is an important part of our identity? It is okay for me to be aware of my gender abnormalities so much so that I feel that transitioning will relieve anxiety, and that is accepted by society, or at least by the LGBT community.I am not trying to offend anyone, I just really want to not see this as a double standard. Clearly, I want all trans people to be able to identify as whomever they feel comfortable, I just do not understand why not trans, gay people are "not allowed" to have just as much preference when it comes to gender without it seeming like it is close minded.