[RANT] why does being gay feel like playing life on hard mode

Why do I feel like being gay is playing life on a harder mode than most other people.I'm not talking about discrimination or equal rights, I thankfully haven't had to face that in my life - this is more of a rate on the dating / romance / love scene in the gay community. I just feel fed up with how the whole system is structured.I'm tired of having to use fucking dating apps to try and meet people because I can never tell if the people I see and like in my everyday life are gay.I'm tired of using "dating apps" where 90% of all conversations end in someone just wanting to fucking jerk them off, send nudes, cover over for a hookup, or worst of all - ghosting.I tired of feeling like I can't relate to anyone else in my life with these issues because I feel like they won't get as they don't have to experience the crap gay people have to put up with to try and find "romance" or whatever. I feel completely fed up with not being able to share my feels with someone who will get it, and having to bottle these shitty feelings inside.I’m sick of having feelings for people who I will never even have a chance with as they dont share my sexual orientation. I’m sick of not even being able to approach someone I’m interested in as asking “Are you gay?” is social suicide.I'm tired of having no way to identify myself as automatically gay to other people, I'm tired of feeling like I have to "come out" to every person I meet. I tired out everyone automatically assuming I'm straight, but I also don't want telling people that "I'm gay!" to be the first thing I say to people - and then have them assume that my identity revolves around being gay.I'm tired of the shitty self-deprecation, ultra-feminized stereotypes, and depression memes that flood just about every fucking gay subreddit.Im just tired of it all. The stereotypes, the toxic culture, the ghosting, the meaningless shit, and everything else. I feel sick thinking about the crap people here have to put up with.Any words of anything would be immensely helpful./rant