The good and bad parts of being gay are the same thing for me.

This is what I've learned three months after coming out. I am friend with a group of straight men and they all know I like dudes.The bad thing about being gay is that you never know exactly where you stand in a group of straight people.I don't think about our differences constantly, in fact, I don't think about it most of the time. But occasionally, the guys will comment on women they find attractive and I am woken to the realisation that there are things I can never understand about them and vice versa. It's as if we are in the same room but separated by a thin layer of glass, they are on one side and I am on the other - alone.I am jealous that they can say they like women without a flinch of hesitation. Their comments might be a little vulgar but ultimately it's true to who they are. Whereas I never know when should I assert my preference in the group, if at all. They may know what I like but do they really want to hear it?The good thing about being gay is that I do not need to live by the gender script, basically, all the time.Straight men follow a narrow and concrete gender script. It's not enough that they just like women, they also have to watch out how they dress, how they talk, how they carry themselves to avoid being judged. That's why they police each other's gender norm by teasing each other for being "gay."I do not feel the same pressure as they do. It's easier for me to write and follow my own gender script because society does not have one for me yet. I can kiss guys, I can kiss girls (platonic kisses when I am drunk), I can enjoy tv shows targeted at both men and women, I can endorse feminism without being judged (I told them that marginalised groups tend to relate to each other), etc. Bottomline, if they call me gay they would just be stating a fact that everyone already knows.In conclusion, the bad and good parts of being gay seem to be two sides of the same coin.This is just my observation from interacting with a group of straight friends. If you guys have different stories to tell please share.