2017. február 4., szombat

relationship problems, just need to vent. [long, sorry]

let me apologize in advance for my shitty grammar. kind of feeling down.ive been seeing a guy for about 5 months or so. we're a clssic case of "it's complicated." we're supposed to just be "friends with benefits," but we talk every day and use endearments like "love, baby, sweetie pie, honey," etc. the relationship is more than sexual and a little more than friendship. i've been falling for him though. and it's not "ooh bloo bloo bloo you're the first guy to ever fuck me, i wanna marry you" bullshit. he's so amazing.he's sweet, kind, supportive, thoughtful, silly, kind to animals, polite, handy, hard-working. he always smells nice, he's sexy, and he likes me. not always honest about his feelings but we've always worked through it like adults.the thing is, he's been hurt a lot in life. he's very guarded as a person. just yesterday, we were talking and he said he had to work until 5pm. i felt bad for him, and told him i should come over and cook him dinner one day. i would love to for him. he tells me that he thinks im sweet, and that no one's really ever done anything like that for him. he opened up to me, and told me he feels like he's been taken advantage of a lot in his life. he stressed that he feels like he doesn't "even want to date anymore." so i told him that i promise i'd never take advantage of him.i went on to say that whenever i dont want to go to class or work, or theres something at work i dont want to do, i tell myself, "i'll do it for him." i want to be a better man for him, worthy of how hard-working he is. and i told him that i like him in a "mature way," and told him what i said in my 3rd paragraph ("He's sweet, kind, supportive," etc.) but that it's ok if he didn't feel the same, because i cant force him to feel for me in a way that he doesn't feel.he told me that i'm sweet, that no one's ever said anything like that to him. and i deserve someone who'll treat me like a king.but i quipped back, "I think rather than be treated like a king, I'd prefer someone kind to cuddle up to at night. Someone to be my equal. I'd love it if it was you. But like i said, there's nothing i can do to force you to feel things you might not feel."so basically, i didnt outright tell him i'm in love with him, but i pretty much implied it.no response so far. feeling vulnerable and sad.just needed to vent, like i said. thanks for listening. i'm preparing myself for the fact that i may experience adult heartbreak soon, and i'll have to pick up the pieces.

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