To start, I'm a 22 year old gay engineering student. I've never been in a relationship before, just messed around with a couple of guys.
So what's strange is that I find literally almost no physical attraction in men under about the age of 30, though there are some exceptions to this (they all involve fantastic beards).
I think it's my appreciation (fetish even? Idk) of the sense of elevated masculinity that comes with age: beards (not 100% necessary), body hair, rough skin, increased body weight, and even gray hair in some cases. Without these it's practically impossible to find a man attractive for me. (Bears are just so hot...)
Now here comes the main reason I'm posting. Lately I've been seeing a 61 year old man, who I think is incredibly attractive, both physically and mentally. He's one of the first guys I've pursued that I can hold an endless conversation with, and being with someone who has had so much experience being gay is incredibly comforting. Now I know that such a large age difference has some downsides, namely lifespan... But I'm not worried about that at this point, because my intended career path (automotive/mechanical engineering) is likely going to end up moving me to a different state.
I'm afraid though of what people will think. If we actually become serious, what will my friends and family think? What will random people in restaurants and on the street think? Everyone's going to think he's my father.
I'm not sure I can handle that. And this whole 'finding older men attractive' thing is precisely why I haven't come out to any of my friends or family yet. I've heard a couple of my female roommates say "ew, she's dating a 30 year old?!" but then also say how attractive George Clooney is. I don't get it. Straight men often think moms are hot, why can't I think dads are hot?
If any of you have any advice please lay it on me. Honestly I think I just needed to vent a little bit.
TL;DR: 22M attracted only to older men, afraid of judgement.
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