2018. március 5., hétfő

Feel like I get turned down a lot on Grindr....but I think I look good lol! Am I deluded ?

Some pics of me:http://ift.tt/2FTu0Z4 have been with some good looking guys in the past but I'd say only 1 out of 10 guys I message would be interested in me sexually/physically. Without wanting to sound vain (maybe it is lol) I do like the way I look, and think I look pretty good! But this belief I have about myself is in extreme contradiction with the lack of guys interested in me (either ignore my message or turn me down)...... so it makes me think maybe I'm delusional about my physical appearance?One thing I did think was was that it's something to do with my Asian looks (I'm half-Chinese). I do think a lot white guys (everyone is mainly white where I live) are not attracted to Asians (e.g "no Asians" , or even the lack of messages East Asian guys get). I wouldn't call it racist as such like many social activists purport, but rather that it's something to do with socialisation and the subconscious psyche of what people find sexually attractive/ what's eroticised / fetishised. Perhaps Asian culture & people is not integrated in the West that Westerners minds are not accustomed to their looks subconsciously? Idk haha (unless you're a rice queen!)I know you're not supposed to measure yourself against other people's values and standards, but I feel shedding some light on this would help me move forward in terms of dating someone appropriate and realistic for myself, as it's kind of getting me down! I go for average to good looking guys, and am even turned down by a lot of guys that are pretty average physically. I have been with guys who are not "conventionally attractive" too because I liked their personality in person.The photo album pics are actually in order of the amount of hits I get on Grindr I'd say, the topless one being the least. If anyone could help me be objective about myMaybe it's kind of shallow but I think everyone wants to be physically desired in some sense. I think it would be easier to think you're not great physically, than perhaps falsely believing you are!I have an inkling I'm just an acquired taste/different looking as some guys have told me I'm very good looking in the past, but I'd say it's very few.Anyway thanks for reading !

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