Is it me or them? I just want to date a decent guy that cares and is non-judgmental.

So, I am a larger gay man. 5’8” and 250lbs. I’m healthy and take care of myself. It’s just that I have found myself to be very stressed and depressed over the fact that any guy I connect with online seems to really like my personality but, as soon as I show them my body, I’m blocked or ignored. Is this normal? Are there actually men out there that like bigger guys but, aren’t also terribly big themselves? How should I approach a guy that loves my personality but, I feel won’t like my body? Should I lead with my body? It makes me feel vain. Any guidance is greatly appreciated. Thank you all!