2016. január 4., hétfő

Need a little advice here

Hi everybody. Recently I've been wondering about coming out but even thinking about it is agonising and taking up a lot of energy. I am looking for advice or tips on how to coop with it.Since the age of 8 I have known that there were feelings for the same sex. Puberty came into the picture, making me interested in girls as well. I kissed many girls, had sex with a few and pretended to be in love with them. Because I behave 'straight' the upheld image was convincing (and still is), making it even more frightful to coop with my sexuality and to express it.One part of me thinks of myself as a coward for not accepting myself, the other part keeps on listing all the uncertainties that coming out would bring along, and the neutral part would like to stay away from all internal conflict and just work on day-to-day work because the conflict is disturbing daily life. Recently I turned 20 and I fear that this conflict will make me depressed if it continues.Can you give advice or tips on how to coop with my sexuality? Just for your information: my surroundings tend to be acceptable and tolerant towards lgbt persons (part of living in the Netherlands, jay) and I've already expressed my love to one guy once. Unfortunately it didn't work out and made me frightend to do it again. My mother knows about my sexuality but the topic is avoided; when it is mentioned she starts talking about fashion, musicals, etc. which are the opposite of my interest. She did not do that before I told her.To cut a long story short: I was wondering .. - How did you came out to your surroundings?How did you make gay friends or entered the gay community?I do not associate myself with the musical type of gay person but I am fearful others will once they know (truly sorry to have label it this way, not meant to be hurtful or sitgmatising). Did you encounter this as well?Did coming out affect your career?Did your group of friends changed significantly after coming out?Do you have a general advice on coming out?Thanks for reading!

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