2016. január 4., hétfő

I feel so much better

Hello everyone. I finally (age 23) worked up the courage to come out to both my parents a few days ago. Well i actually told my mom like 2 weeks ago when i was hammered, but whatever. I have been struggling with who i am for what feels like a lifetime now. So finally getting this off my chest to someone feels unbelievable. It was actually kind of a weird situation with how it all came about but im glad that it all worked out in the end.If you were to look through my post history, it would become pretty imediately apparent that i have struggled with heroin addiction for the past 3 years of my life. It was perfect for hiding from all my feelings and on top of that, you pretty much lose all desire for sex. So it was definitely exactly what i wanted if i was going to deny who I am. Thankfully, i went to rehab about 4 months ago and havent touched it since then. But with getting clean from that, your sex drive and emotions come back with a vengence. So needless to say these past few months have been kind of depressing in general.Anyway back to coming out. Like i said i came out to my mom while i was pretty drunk and she was actually really supportive which was pretty cool, but we didnt talk about anything after that night and i still had yet to tell my dad. So maybe like a week ago i downloaded (then uninstalled, then redownloaded lol) grindr just to see what was around this area. I wasnt really expecting anything to come out of it, but i wanted to give it a shot anyway. Id also like to add in that i have always been attracted to older guys which definitely made everything harder for me to accept for whatever reason. So i was talking to this guy who i thought was insanely good looking, and he actually seemed really cool from the limited comversation i had with him. We agreed to finally meet up yesterday and watch some football at a bar together which i feel like might have been one of the most important decisions i have ever made in my life. I swallowed my fear/anxiety and said fuck it, whats the worst that could happen.So he came and picked me up, and i decided that i would rather lie to my parents about what i was doing than tell them what was really going on. The thing is, this is exactly what i used to do when i would leave to get high, and my parents arent completely over the trauma that i gave to them from that. So i walked up the street to meet him and my dad saw me get in his car. Queue the angry phone call from him. I answered and basically was just like "give the phone to mom." I told her im going to a bar to watch the game with a guy, go ahead and tell dad whats going on. And that was that.So the guy i was with ended up being amazing. He didnt pressure me to do anything and ended up being really fucking cool and into a lot of normal things (whatever normal is) that i enjoyed. I was definitely extremely nervous at first but once we got to talking and drinking a beer or two it felt much more comfortable. We watched the football games, drank a few beers, and he took me home. And we kissed a little before i left, which surprised me how much i actually enjoyed it :).Anyway back to my dad, he didnt act any different the rest of the day yesterday then after dinner he pulled me aside and told me he loved me. He basically said he doesnt care who i want to be with and just wants me to be happy. Then he started crying and told me he is sorry that i had to suffer so much to get to this point, it was really sweet and im actually kind of tearing up thinking about it. I spent the whole day yesterday feeling absolutely euphoric. And not in a soulless high euphoria. Like a I finally feel fucking alive and right euphoria. It was so god damn incredible i seriously wish i would have went through it years ago. Im not really sure where im going with this post, but you all are awesome and lurking here definitely helped me get to this point. Now i just have to figure out how/when/who else i need to tell. I have a good group of friends and im honestly not even really worried about telling any of them, so at least i got that going for me.Tldr: came out to parents, met a cool guy, actually enjoying life for the first time in a while.

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