Welp, i'm a lesbian - advice would be lovely!

Hi everyone,

Thanks so much for reading. I've been looking through this community for a while now, and it seems amazing, so i'd love to share and get some advice.

I just turned 24, and am living with my boyfriend of 3 years. Although I love him and he's a great person, I'm not sexually attracted to him like I was at the beginning of our relationship, and looking back, I think that was largely because this is the first real relationship I've ever been in. Although that 'realization' moment really just happened for me, and makes so much sense, I'm not really sure what to do. Obviously I need to take some time for myself and end this relationship, and I feel pretty comfortable with that. Although I think that I'll feel guilty and sad when it comes to it, because my partner is a really great guy and we get along so well. Although I recognize that I wouldn't be happy continuing it, now that I know I'm gay. I suppose that just has to be done, no way around it.

What I want to know, is has anyone else been in this situation? Living with someone, and coming out to them? How did things go from there? Our lease is almost up, so I know that if we have this conversation relatively soon, our housing situation and figuring stuff out will go much more smoothly.

And I'm actually so excited at the prospect of living on my own and embracing this part of myself, that it's definitely outweighing my anxiety about coming out and dealing with all that, although I know that it'll be hard for my partner. Especially as he's a shy person, who doesn't have a huge circle of people to rely on, other than his family who he is sort of close to. I know I need to do what's right for me, but that won't stop me worrying about him for sure. He's also going through some big anxieties school/work wise, so this is kind of a crappy time for him.

So really, any advice would be appreciated! Thank you for reading :)