I'll try to make this a shorter story without leaving out too many details. I'm a 33 year old guy. I'm from a small town, but have lived in many bigger towns throughout my life. Anyway, met my ex on Facebook. At the time I was living in my home town, helping my dad with his business after his wife (who ran the offices of his businesses) and him got a divorce. The ex and I lived 3 hours away from each other, but eventually started dating. We dated seriously for almost a year before the ex started pushing me to move to his home town. At the time, he was living with his mom. I got a job and moved, thinking we'd move into our own place. We didn't. I ended up moving in with him and his mom. Also, I discovered that the fun, exciting person I had known and grown to love was a façade. During the week he was in bed by 7pm. I ended up doing the cooking, laundry, dishes, and then I would be in the den watching tv until I fell sleep.
We ended up breaking up after about 8 months. I ended up moving in with one of his pseudo-friends. I'm constantly surrounded by his friends... being that the majority of the people I've met here have been his friends. When I go out on the weekends, I usually end up having to hang out with him. We've gone through the fighting to trying to be friends to not speaking to barely speaking to any of the above. Either way, I feel like I need time to get over this, but I cannot without having zero friends. I've tried making friends here, and it's pretty miserable... especially for a gay guy such as myself. Most people you meet either aren't quality people or want to sleep with me... neither of which are ideal.
So, after another 8 months of living with my current roommate, she tells me that her and her boyfriend are moving in together, so I need to find another place to live. He's moving in March 1st. Here is where the decision comes in...
I could find a roommate or find a place of my own here. At my job, we are down one person (waiting to hire another person), and we are already a small office. Additionally, we are in a big transition period and would feel bad leaving them at a time like this. I have met a few people here that I enjoy hanging out with that don't normally hang out with the ex, but they may not be the best influences.
I could move to Baton Rouge with my ex college roommate. He's overbearing, but maybe that's what I need to get motivated to get things done (such as get my masters). He has a house already, and he can try to get me a job with the branch of government he works in. However, he's trying to sell his house and doesn't know where he'll go next. Can't really bet on staying there too long.
Finally, I could move to Austin. I've lived there for three years before. I have family and friends that live there. My best friend there has offered me a place to stay for a few months, and a few friends there have offered to help me find a job. I just don't want to jump into living in Austin without a solid place to live and without knowing about the job I'd get before I moved there.
I could really use some advice about which should I do. I feel like there are pros and cons about each decision. I also feel like whatever I choose will greatly influence the trajectory of my life forever. Any and all responses welcomed.
TL;DR: Living in my ex's hometown. Have little friends of my own that we don't share. Having to move out of my place, and I don't know what to do. Stay where I'm at and potentially suffer due to having to see the ex and deal with friends that aren't the best influences. Move in with an old friend who is overbearing, but would probably motivate me to get some stuff done. Or move to a city I love where I have friends and family, but don't really have much stability.
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