Do you also hate rough or too porn-like "passionate" sex ?

I've recently come to realize that I find slow sex to be much more enjoyable than super porn-like sort of superficially passionate sex.As a gay man who did not commit to a relationship in last 2 years, I've realized that I had latter form of sex much more but it honestly isn't all that better than masturbation, thinking about it now.Just to give a simple example, I like slow bj by a cute boy looking right into my eyes accentuating the warmth of their mouth so much more compared to porn-like bj where it's very fast and hardcore.Talking with my straight girl friends, I have realized that superficially oh-so-passionate way of having casual sex did not seem to be significantly prevalent among straight people. I hate this though.My rant is over, what do you guys think ?