Virgin or not

I recently made a post where I commented that I wasn’t a Virgin because I was raped when I was a little boy. I’m 18 now.Someone replied that he doesn’t consider sexual abuse victims as non-virgins because they were not willing participants and that being a willing part of sex and choosing to be vulnerable are the key parts of losing your virginity.That sounds nice and all, but I’m not sure I buy into that idea. It sounds more like rationalization to justify what you want for yourself or something you say to someone you feel sorry for to make them feel better.What do you think?