Too Picky in Dating?

I've decided to be very selective about guys I date. Some friends have told me I'm being too narrow. However, my past three relationships have all ended badly, and I think in part because I made concessions early on I should not have. I admit, I was about the "love story" and maybe took it too far when people would say, "Well, you could be excluding a perfectly great guy because he does not meet your requirement of X, Y, or Z."I feel like I might as well go in picky, and I can always backtrack later.One more thing... I get that we cannot be our partner's all. However, I prefer a partner who I mostly am side-by-side with. Just my style. I firmly believe in solid friendships, and having interests outside the partnership. In an ideal week, we'd maybe spend five nights together (three at home, two out or vice versa) and one or two apart with our own friends/interests. We'd mainly travel together, but taking off for a weekend with friends alone would not be a big deal on occasion. However, I do not want to be the guy constantly showing up and talking about my mystery partner who prefers to stay at home.So... Question One... does it make sense to try being a little picky for a while? To say, "No, these things are key and while you may be a great guy you do not have what I need."If this post is not already too long and you want to answer... here are some of my specific things...Question Two - am I being too picky? These are some of my things...Has to like the outdoors and be willing to at least try a short backpacking trip. I did this with my ex and found nothing quite as amazing as setting out on our own just us two and seeing the world this way.Extroverts only, or maybe slightly introverted, but no heavy introverts. I'm HIGHLY extroverted and have found it causes lots of frictions with introverts.Passionately doing something not self-serving. I lead community activities and want someone giving back in some way (could be contributions in their professional field if it helps people, too).Driven. Sure, some parts of life my be idle, but, overall, working to better himself, those around him, and his position in life.OK with close family relationships. He does not need to be my mom's best friend, but has to be OK with me going home (2.5 hour flight) every other month for a couple days. Ultimately, has to be open to spending some holidays with my family and a trip with them every few years.Athletic. Not in the sense of a perfect body running eight minute miles. However, enjoys a day out biking, throwing the Frisbee at the park, kayaking for half a day, or a good day hike.