Not able to relate to other gay men?

Hey. I'm a gay man who grew up in a small, very catholic, very bigoted town. So naturally I suppressed my true self during my teen years and only began to meet other gay men when I left for college. I've also been out for 7 years now.However, I've noticed I have a lot of trouble connecting with other gay men. I'm not the type who enjoys going out dancing, going to raves, or doing hard drugs. I know that sounds unfairly stereotypical, but it seems like most gay men I meet are into stuff like that. I always end up feeling uncomfortable, like I'm not gay enough (aka, not good enough), to hang with other gay guys. It doesn't help that I tend to be an introverted person to begin with. I can't tell if this is my personality or if I'm just uncomfortable with myself / don't really know who I am after growing up hiding.If anyone has experienced anything similar or has an advice, I'd love to hear it. I'm unhappy with my life as it is. I want to get out there and meet people and form lasting relationships but I just don't know how to connect.