I feel weird writing this, but I'm genuinely not sure how else to approach this, and I think that people seem to give good advice on his sub on the whole, so I figured I'd give it a go. Nothing ventured, and all that.
Here's the deal, and thank you, in advance, for taking the time to read this.
I met my boyfriend 6 months ago at a party that was hosted by one of my friends from college. He is a friend of one of her room mates, and he seemed cool and laid back, and we instantly hit it off. We met for a drink a few days after the party, and started dating quite quickly after that. He's funny, interesting, and he genuinely seems to like me, and to care about me, and that is something that I've really appreciated. In fact, apart from what I am about to write here, he seems PERFECT for me in every way.
We had several really nice dates over November and December, and a lovely time over the Christmas/New Years break. I really started to think that we might have found something special together. That made me happy.
He is a tactile guy. He touches my arm, puts his arm around me, and will sit close to me, so that part of his body is touching mine. However, when we kiss, it's hard to describe, but it feels like he's not really into it. Also, when we kiss I have to say that I've noticed he's not really into it "down there", if you know what I mean. There's no response that I'm aware of. At least, I don't feel anything, and this is different from the guys I've dated before.
However, the most noticeable thing is that when we're making out he has never tried to feel my breasts, or anything else for that matter, and we've not yet had sex.
I think he's really hot, and I'd love to jump into bed with him, but he seems to be quite happy to go along with this sort of chaste relationship, never even starting down the journey to the bedroom.
Clearly, I've alluded to this situation once or twice, and tried to be subtle about it. I'm too proud to say, "why won't you have sex with me," but I also wanted him to know that I think it's an issue. At least, it is for me.
When I have brought it up obliquely, he seems to either not notice what I say, or else ignore it. At any rate, he doesn't respond or answer.
And now I'm starting to get frustrated, and also suspicious.
Do you think this lack of response and interest means he's gay? He says he's dated girls before. I wish I could talk to one of them and ask if they had the same experience.
I'm so confused and frustrated.
What do I do?
Is he gay, or just not into ME? And if that's the case, why is he bothering with dating me......
I just don't get it.
Any advice would be gratefully received.
tl;dr: been dating a guy for six months. Everything has been going well except he seems to be physically unresponsive, and we have not yet had sex. Heck, we haven't even reached first base. I'm confused, frustrated, and starting to suspect he might be gay.
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