I'm coming to the realization that my self-confidence is too high and therefore I'm too picky with guys. How do I get a more realistic self-image of myself and finally get a boyfriend?

Throwaway. Ok, this is going to sound whiny, so I apologize in advance. My friends keep offering platitudes but I want some good, actual advice.

I'm a 24-year-old law student. I go on a lot of dates. I average about two or three a week, which isn't easy since I'm pretty busy with school, and I like to hang out with friends as much as possible. I also don't go on dates on Friday and Saturday nights because I prefer going out and meeting randoms at bars. I have dates lined up for the next two weeks on every free night I'm available. These dates are always first, second, or third dates - I haven't made it to a fourth date in an awfully long time.

I always find excuses not to get too involved with a guy. I have this idea of the "perfect" guy in my head: cute, tall, preppy, my height, good career prospects, and comes from a nice family. It seems like all the guys that I go on dates with fall short of this ideal guy. They're all either too short or too feminine or too artsy or too unambitious or not as cute as I thought they were, and so and so forth. I keep giving guys first, second, and third chances in the hopes that we really click, but nothing has stuck yet.

Up until a couple of weeks ago, I always assumed it was ok, and that I had every right to be picky. I see myself as a good looking guy, in decent shape, intelligent, and ambitious. I get enough attention on apps and websites that this view hasn't really been challenged, except with guys I actually liked. I've been on a few dates with guys who 100% fit into my "perfect guy" mold. But the shitty thing is that they never want to go on as many dates as I do. It always fizzles out on the second or third date. I feel like they're me and I'm the guys I date. (Note: this isn't because I get too clingy or desperate or anything. I'm pretty socially savvy and know how to handle myself.)

Also, I don't seem to match with as many guys that I really like on Tinder, and the guys that really stick out to me on Grindr often don't respond. It's much harder to set up dates with the kind of guy I want than dates with other guys. For instance, today I messaged two new Tinder matches. One was like ideal - basically everything I'm looking for (so it seems) in a nutshell. The other was really hot but he's auditioning for Broadway and I noticed I'm usually not too into theater types, plus he's a couple of inches too short. As usual, the good guy didn't respond to me, but the theater guy did (I have a date with him next week now). It drives me insane that the guy I got all excited about isn't even responding to me. Meanwhile, I'm going to go out with this theater guy and probably bang him a couple of times and then leave. If I could just get over myself and have a realistic view of who I have a shot with and who I don't, I could probably have so much of a better time with him and not feel like I should be "doing better."

Anyone know how to get a more realistic view of myself, so I'm not chasing these mystical, unobtainable guys and instead am satisfied with what I can get? I have never had a SERIOUS boyfriend before. I feel like I'm doomed to date around and will never settle down, when I feel emotionally ready to take the next step with someone. There's so many guys out there, but I can't shake the feeling like I can do better, when that cannot be the case. I feel like this is the curse of gay men - there are always more options out there, so we're always looking for what could be next instead of what we can actually get.