OriginalFirst and foremost, I would like to thank you all for the answers I received. I would like to thanks both the “older” guys for the advice as well as the “young” guys for suggesting to be not too patronizing. Following your advice, I decided to meet him with an open mind about both being more careful and about a relationship. Would say that it was OK, even if drama erupted as someone prophesied.So, Mike (fictional name) arrived in the early afternoon as planned and I have to say that he was actually cuter IRL than in the pics. And, honestly, he is just a bit overweight like me. I guess that everyone expect him to be some sort of skinny twink. BTW, we ate something I prepared, then started playing. I quite quickly realized that while he is a funny guy and a good BF4 player, he is quite childish. Nothing wrong, but that honestly put dating somewhat out of the picture and reinforced the idea about giving him some advice. Didn't want to be condescending, so dropped some hints while talking about guys, dating, etc... during the breaks between games. I also took some responsibilities for putting him in that situation and I have the impression that he got it. Mike is a kid and behaves like one, but I think he is smart and understand stuff quickly even if not explicitly told.We played a couple of hours and I thought stuff were going well. Then, a colleague calls me to discuss a problem, so I excuse Mike and go in the living room while he is super busy fighting tanks. I come back around 15-20 mins later and I find him sitting on my bed wearing just his t-shirt. I have to say that I didn't expect that. I considered the possibility he misinterpreted my intentions and I would have had to deal with touchy situations, but that kinda shocked me. I don’t really remember what I said, but I know he started crying and asking if I thought he was too fat and why I told him yesterday I liked his booty.Honestly, I’m not a person that can handle emotions of others easily, so I don’t know if I did something wrong. I just acted on my (usually poor) instinct. So, I sat next to Mike and hugged him. I told him that he’s very cute and I find him attractive. That he should not be ashamed of his body because every single part is great. That I was sorry for whatever false message I gave last night, but I would be not comfortable with being in a relationship with someone so young (I know, the “it’s not you, it’s me” cliché). That we could be friends or cuddle buddies, but I thought that I wouldn't be able to give him what he deserves.At this point he had stopped crying, but he was still shaking. So, I wiped the tears, hugged him tight and kissed him. I pretended to not notice, but he definitely came. Then, we just laid on the bed next to each other, looking silently at the ceiling. Probably everything happened in 10-15 minutes, but it seemed hours for me. I got up and cheerfully asked if he wanted a glass of water and then smash some noobs. Mike finally smiled and said yes. Went to the kitchen to get the water and, when I came back, he was dressed again. We played for another hour, then he left with the agreement that he can always call me.I really hope I didn't do anything wrong. That was really emotionally intense for me and I greatly underestimated the effects of my behavior. I guess that I learnt something today.Thanks again for your kind suggestions!
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