How can I find a relationship as a gay 23 year old virgin?

It's kind of depressing me that I haven't found anyone yet.I've never had sex or had a boyfriend of any kind, and I'm 23.I'm looking for something real. Everyone I know who has lost their V to one night stands has regretted it later. One is a bisexual guy who now has HIV because of it. And, sex just isn't as important to me as it is to most guys. I'm looking for love and someone to share my life with.I have a good job and financial stability, people tell me I'm hot, and I'm a nice person who respects everyone. And yet it seems like nobody is interested in anything other than a one night stand with me.I go on Okcupid, and guys pretend to like me, but then start to demand sex on the first date and refuse to even listen to me talk about myself or give an input on what I want to do. The same thing has happened four times now with different guys who seemed great online.I used to message several people a day with thought out messages and either get no response or a creepy X-rated response about what they wanted to do to me. I've had old guys send me dick pics and ask how I tight I was. I eventually just deleted my Okcupid and Grindr.What are the big turnoffs with me? I'm not totally sure. I'm part-black Brazilian and part Puerto Rican. I know a lot of people are racist when it comes to dating and only want a partner of a certain race. Also, I live with my older brother and a kid (actually an orphaned relative, but, for all intents and purposes, a son).I'm not picky about race, weight, appearance, or any of that, and I find it kind of depressing how unwanted I am by other guys.If anyone has any ideas on how I can someone, I'd greatly appreciate it. Thank you r/ainbow