[Serious] At what point do you become more comfortable in your sexuality?

I'm gay. I know that I'm gay. But, outside of my circle of gay friends, nobody knows; not my family, not my high school friends, not even my friends from college. At most, I have a few friends who think I'm bi, and that's the extent of that.Hell, I've had my roommate for almost a year, and aside from what might be his suspicions, it's never been brought up, nor have I had the courage to be more specific about my romantic life, or the bars and clubs that I visit on a regular basis (gay, obviously).Hell, there are even some days where I don't think I'm as gay as I think, and I'm trying to convince myself otherwise, wondering if it's all "just a phase."When do I become more comfortable with myself? At what point do I talk about all the gay places I visit, the gay events I attend, or my live life, to straight people like it doesn't even matter?It's like I intentionally try to distance myself from my sexuality around others, and have become more lonely as a result.